Nobody told them it was over

Fire season teaches us to measure things by their absence. We learn what a horizon is worth by losing it for three weeks. Then the wind shifts, the world hands it all back without ceremony, and we are left holding a gratitude with nowhere to put it.

September gives us somewhere to put it, and it leads us here.

From Sept. 8–12, roughly 2,500 people aged 55 and older will arrive in Kamloops for the 55+ BC Games. Twenty-seven sports and activities. Competitors from all twelve provincial zones. Swimming, triathlon, track and field, cycling, pickleball, lawn bowling, cribbage, disc golf. Kamloops was last hosted in 2022. This time, the Games come to us.

Last autumn, I wrote to you from Nanaimo, where I went to watch these Games, expecting to clap politely and then reward myself with a Nanaimo bar. Instead, I was rearranged by two women who could outswim, outsing, and almost certainly outlive me. I have thought about them all year. I think about them on the mornings when my shoulder aches and the water looks cold, and the sensible thing would be to stay in bed.

Here is what I have come to believe, after that morning and after Nanaimo.

We are handed a story about aging that runs in only one direction. Decline. Management. A long, careful lowering of expectations. It arrives so early and so constantly that most of us absorb it unnoticed, and by fifty we have begun to negotiate downward. We say we used to run. We say we were a swimmer once. We put our own capacity in the past tense, even though we are still standing in the present.

What happens on those pool decks and start lines is a correction. Someone will touch the wall in her eighties with the same fierce attention she brought to it at twenty. Someone will play his first competitive match at 67 because a door closed and he declined to believe it was the only one. None of this is decoration. It is evidence.

And this is the part I most want younger readers to hear, because it follows from that correction.

The story reaches you early. It reaches you at twenty-two, when you quit the sport you loved because you were never going to be elite. It reaches you at thirty, when you decide you have missed your window. It reaches you at forty, in the shape of a shrug. Every person competing in Kamloops next week was told at some point, in some quiet way, that it was over. Every one of them declined to believe it.

If you are young, come and watch anyway. Bring your grandmother. Better, bring the friend who has stopped moving. Sit close enough to see what a body looks like when nobody has talked it into stopping, and learn that beginning is a skill you practice rather than a chance you get once.

Here is my invitation, then.

Go and watch. Pick one venue, one afternoon, and sit in the stands. Stay long enough for it to land.

Volunteer. The Games require more than a thousand volunteers each year to run. Sign up if you can.

And if you find yourself thinking, quietly, that you could do that, note the thought. Surrey hosts in 2027. Registration for this year’s Games opened in March, which gives you roughly 14 months to become a person who has signed up for something.

One more thing, and August taught it to me, before we get to next week.

The hills came back. The Games are coming. Whatever the sky is doing on the eighth, two and a half thousand people will be in this city insisting that it is never too late, and never too early, to begin.

I intend to be among them. Come with me, and I hope to see you there.

Dr. Amy Tucker proudly calls herself an “accidental athlete.” A senior competitive swimmer, open-water enthusiast, and member of Canada’s Age-Group Triathlon Team. After nearly two decades of teaching, she now writes about bodies, resilience, and the case for beginning at any age.